I realize that it’s been so long since posting that I will never be able to accurately describe everything that’s recently happened. Let me just review the highlights. I apologize in advance for the possibly lengthy post.
I’m Not Crazy, Get Me Out Of Here!
A lot has changed since my last post which, although I’ve yet to reread it, pretty much glorifies my drug addiction. In case it came off as confusing, let me clarify a few things. I was miserable. Starting down the road of methamphetamine addiction was one of the worst decisions in my life. Of course, I’d suspected this ahead of time, which is why I did it. Go me.
Friday, March 2nd: I started my day early since I couldn’t sleep, and even though I was disgusted with my habit, I was all to excited to take my first few lines of the day. I took the opportunity to spend the morning driving aimlessly through the dark cities. My thoughts wandered, eventually settling on dark suicidal feelings of wanting to buy a gun to shoot myself in the head. I hated the way I felt and was ready for it all to end.
By the time I got to work, over two hours early, I was exhausted but buzzed from my morning high. The ideas of my death continued to float through my brain. It felt like having ants crawling on you that you can’t scratch. Metaphorically. I was officially in hell. My life was swirling down the drain quickly and I saw my death in my immediate future. I had to make a decision. Did I really want to die?
Shortly after normal working hours began, I took refuge in my coworkers cubicle and started to confide in her, hinting at my hardcore drug use and suicidal plans. She stayed with me. Although she had a mountain of work to finish, she talked to me for hours until I agreed to go with her to my boss’s office and ask about a leave of absence to get into a treatment facility. This conversation led to a similar one with my HR department. Though I didn’t know it at the time, this was my last day at work for a while.
Later that day, I had my appointment with Dr. M. On my session sheet I wrote that I wanted to talk about a treatment facility. The office worker (who’s far nicer than my actual doctor) talked to me briefly, asking what exactly I was looking for. I explained my suicidal thoughts and anxiety, along with a mention of detoxing. I told her I wanted to go to SR but they rarely have beds available. A few moments later, she told me she called and said they had a bed available and waiting for me if I wanted to go that evening. I spoke with my doctor, who seemed to care less what I did, and decided to take the opportunity to change my life. For real this time. I went home and quickly packed my backpack with necessities. Before I left, I took four lines of meth, then flushed the rest, as well as my stash of pot, down the toilet. It was worth about $150 total and was one of the hardest decisions I’ve ever had to make. But I wanted to get better. I was so tired. I tossed my grinder and pipe in a trash bag before nodding and heading to my car.
The admission process was long and tiring, but I made it in. After I was inside for good, I realized I no longer wanted to be there. I didn’t want help. I wanted to get out and pull the trigger on life. I looked around at everyone packed into the crowded room and felt like crying forever. What have I done?
The first day, Saturday, March 3rd, was by far the worst day. I was surprised to find that this hospital was very different from RW. They made you get out of bed and locked the doors all day. No sleeping all day for me. Furthermore, you were forced into a group room for most of the day. I was irritated and angry at the other patients. They were loud and I hated them. I wanted out. How the fuck was I supposed to get out of this? I had random crying spells throughout the day and refused to eat almost anything. As soon as they opened the rooms, I went straight to bed. My roommate, an older lady who was addicted to benzos, told me that the first day is always the hardest and insisted it would get better. Whatever, I thought as I laid my head down, exhausted both mentally and physically.
Each day at the hospital, things got a little easier. I started opening up in groups and befriending other patients. The doctor put me on a new anti-depressant and a sleeping pill. I ended up staying for eight days. I won’t go into too much detail since it would take too long, but the doctors approved my LoA request for work and short-term disability (don’t know if it was accepted yet.) Social services helped me call my mother and finally tell her everything. She asked my mom if I could come stay with them for a few weeks to get out of my current situation. This decision was mostly based on the fact that apparently residential mental health facilities will usually not be covered by insurance until there’s been several hospitalizations. Basically, once again I would have to get worse to get better. And to my surprise, my parents agreed and bought me a ticket for the same day as my release. I was headed to California. Despite the incredibly difficult conversations to come, I was excited to see them. I was ready for a vacation from my life and this was my chance to get my shit figured out.
Parental Controls: Activated
I flew out on March 10th. While reviewing my ticket at the gate, I realized they booked me first class tickets. Sweeeeeet, I thought. Free booze. I took full advantage. By the time I arrived in San Francisco, I was so drunk I could barely walk. Bad start to my reunion. I was so far gone, I didn’t notice my mother’s significant weight loss until the following day. I spent the weekend helping my parents any way that I possibly could. I also made sure to stick to my new diet of eating only a few bites of food a day. In Georgia, I was steady at about 270 pounds. By the time I got to my parents trailer in Cali, I weighed just under 250. I’m not bothered by my eating habits. Call it what you want. My parents have made little fuss about it. It’s easy to concentrate on my eating when all they talk about is weight loss. They’ve both lost about 60-80 pounds each in recent months and eat fairly healthily. I nibble. One hard-boiled egg for breakfast. Five or six carrots for lunch. A quarter of a salad for dinner. On nights like tonight when I can’t control myself, I just quickly make my way to the bathroom to throw up. Before sleeping, I take a few laxatives to help get rid of the rest. I’ve been doing really well too. Between going into the hospital and now, I went about two weeks without having to poop. I feel like I can control at least this one aspect of my life. And thought I’m still disgusted with what I see in the mirror, it helps a little.
My parents and I have been on edge. I’ve been brutally honest with them, down to telling them more than once that I want to kill myself. I know it hurts them. Believe me, it hurts me too. But I hate lying to them. Except about my eating habits. That’s my little secret. Other than that, it’s been up and down. I’ve had some episodes that have scared them pretty bad. Last night, I got way drunk and started throwing a fit. Before I went to bed, I took three times the medication I was supposed to, hoping by some miracle that I wouldn’t wake up in the morning. But alas, here I am.
I don’t know what I’m doing here or really, what I’m doing at all. My parents and I are all at a loss as for what to do. I don’t know what I want anymore. The feelings of wanting to die are still coming in waves and more seriously that before. I still feel drugged out from the Klonopin they put me on but not in a good way. More just a sleepy, half-drunk way.
Right now I’m on:
Effexor XR – 150mg – 1x morning
Klonopin – 0.5mg – 3x daily
Serequil – 50mg – 1x evening
I don’t think they are working as intended and it makes it really hard to keep taking them when I don’t feel any different. But I promised I’d try, so I’ve been taking them anyways. My parents have pretty much now banned me from drinking and gambling after last night. I’m both angry for the restrictions and relieved that they are finally taking this seriously. They’re worried. And that… satisfies me? I want them to be worried. Because I am. I’m worried I won’t live to see my 22nd birthday…
I’m really tired now. I’ll try and write when I can, but since I have limited computer access now, it may be a few days. Until then…